By David Alexander |

Extending or Projecting? »

Each month, we publish an excerpt from the vast wisdom collection of New Thought luminary, Dr. Ernest Holmes, founder of the Religious Science movement. The monthly teachings from Holmes are then summarized by Rev. Dr. David Alexander, community spiritual leader of New Thought Center for Spiritual Living in Lake Oswego, Oregon.

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Below is his August 2018 “Philosophy in Action” column:

This month’s feature article from our founder contains within it a secret formula that could radically change your relationship with everything. Did you see it?
Holmes talked about three things: love, givingness and peace. Now these things alone are fine topics of spiritual study and wisdom; however, it is the way in which they work together that makes the secret formula take shape. I’ll get to that in just a moment.

First, to lay the groundwork, let’s begin with the basic understanding that there is something within you that wants to express. It is what I would call a life of wholeness. It is also true that we are at choice in how we respond to it.

We may cooperate with it and make room for it through our spiritual practice, or we may choose to deny it. Choosing to deny it will lead to resentment, blame, shame and stories about why we don’t have the life that we secretly desire. In short, we are either extending ourselves in spiritual practice toward the life we desire, or we are projecting our pain and limitations onto life, people and circumstances, thereby labeling them as the obstacles to our good. So, are you ready to stop projecting and start extending yourself to your greatest good?

The formula begins with understanding that love is the foundation of the universe and therefore who and what you are. Because love is who you are, you have all that you need for a life of wholeness. How do you access it? Through the law of givingness. If you want something, give it away. Carefully examine any area of your life where you feel you are not heard, seen and appreciated to the degree you’d like or feel you deserve to be. That feeling comes from projecting what you are not giving onto others. Reverse the behavior and the experience will flip.

This will lead you to the third and final piece of the formula: peace. Peace comes by way of surrendering positions of defense. Defending your story, limitations or grievances with life will always cost your peace and stand in the way of your own wholeness. Is your story worth such a high price? Don’t bet on it. Dare to claim the answer that is bigger than your problem and peace will be yours.

Travel well.